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Hi there I'm Vlad! I'm figuring out how to build tools to augment human intellect; I derive joy from dance, poetry, playing with animals & I'm looking for a woman to be my long-term partner.

I'm 29, live in San Francisco and open to either monogamy or polyamory.

I would appreciate you sharing this profile with women you think might be a good match.

Pics!

Me

🧰 My current best attempt at describing what I'm doing with my life is that I'm an independent researcher exploring ideas in the Tools for thought and Future of Programming spaces.

Day to day that looks like me paying attention to friction in my workflows, incidental complexity people encounter and structural/architectural issues in tools I use and following my curiosity in thinking how things can be better.

It also implies a lot of iteration often means that I get excited about something, build a prototype and then get excited about something new πŸ˜…

Some things I've been thinking about recently: top of mind

I also sometimes do coaching to help people become better Software Engineers.

πŸŽ‰ Things that bring me joy

πŸ“œ I've recently discovered that I enjoy poetry!

🎭 doing improv

πŸ•Ί dance (West coast swing)

πŸ’‘ pursuing my curiosity & building things

πŸ•°οΈ In my past life

I’m originally from Ukraine

I have lived in France & Ireland before coming to the US

Which turned me into aged cheese and dark beer enjoyer

Spent most of 2021 being a digital nomad (SF Bay β†’ Portland β†’ Paris β†’ Dnipro (Ukraine) β†’ Prague β†’ Berlin β†’ New York β†’ SF)

I knew how to dance Argentine Tango

Which introduced me to social dance and showed me new ways to move and communicate

I used to be a Software Engineer at Amazon

You can explore the rest of this digital garden to get a (somewhat outdated) peek into my mind πŸ˜‰

I like trying new things & strive to be on the right side of explore-exploit tradeoff πŸ™ƒ

I'm signed up for cryonics

I identify with the rationalist and effective altruist movements, I'd say I inhabit the edges of these communities rather than being deeply embedded into them though πŸ€”

❀️ My love languages are

Physical Touch πŸ§‘β€πŸ€β€πŸ§‘ πŸ«‚

A thing I've been wondering about recently (after spending some time in Mexico) is why public signs of affection are much less common in the US compared to Ukraine or Mexico

πŸ’­ My values, according to Clearer Thinking

Achievement/agency

Beauty

Longevity

Freedom

What are some signs that we'll get along

this is not meant to be a strict list of requirements - more of a set of observations on what qualities led me to grow closer to people in the past

You enjoy having deep intellectual conversations

You are into touch, affection, physical intimacy

You're deeply curious/passionate about some topic/you're pursuing your ambition in some area.

It helps if I can relate to the target of your focus πŸ˜›

You have a pet or up for having pets

I derive a lot of joy from interacting animals - I recently had an opportunity to live with two dogs, and it was wonderful.

A quote from a friend:

Whenever Vlad meets a dog - his face lights up, and his entire body language changes - he is delighted to get to know it and play with it

You're able to consider & talk about most ideas regardless of whether you agree with them or whether they match your political views/etc

You have a good process of figuring out what is true and updating your beliefs in face of new evidence epistomology

You'll enjoy dancing together! And more generally - us deriving joy from similar things

You'd enjoy traveling and exploring new places/things together.

You think that death is bad

Something something irreverence, playfulness

Why you may not want to date me

You're into religion, astrology, "new age" things

My model of the word is very much lies on the foundations of materialism, reductionism & empiricism. So the broad set of things that I point at with the labels above is not something I resonate with.

Kids

From interacting with friends and looking at general life satisfaction research - raising kinds seems like a very painful process that significantly reduces your life satisfaction day to day.

Many people find it a deeply meaningful activity in retrospective, and of-course there are moments of joy sprinkled through, but I'm not convinced that the tradeoff is worth it πŸ™ƒ

It seems to me that you can do things that are as or more meaningful, more impactful and bring you more joy day to day instead.

I'm not dead set on this stance though and can see changing my mind.

Based on past experience - I don't think long distance relationships work for me

How to reachout

Don't fret about having an elaborate message, just say hi, I prefer higher bandwidth channels (meet in person, video call) for the purposes of actually getting to know each other!

Channels

πŸ’Œ Email me at vlad@sitalo.org

πŸ‘« If we’re friends on Facebook you can also use https://www.reciprocity.io/.

In that case I would only see your reach-out if I also check the corresponding box at some point. Asking me out is faster (if I haven’t already checked your box) and I promise I’ll be non-awkward about it.

If you’re uncertain, please lean on the side of getting in touch!

If reading this profile made you think of someone who can be a good match - I'd appreciate you sharing a link with them!