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Seeing friends only at social events is a bad equilibrium

My preferred mode of interactions with people is trending towards 1-1. The group interactions are "lower pressure" but they're also often missing depth, which I crave. I think "mostly meeting friends at social things" is a bad equilibrium - you're always in the state of "kind of saw each other recently" which is technically true, but rarely affords for you to get to know each other better.

Maybe ok for maintenance, (not really sure if sufficient by itself, but can be a component) but doesn't work for building/developing

On the other hand if you only interact with the person one on one it can sometimes become "stale" (though arguably it's a reflection of my conversation/interactions skills to a large degree).